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Your score out of thirty, what it means, and the exact next step for where you two are. Plus a week of emails written for your situation.

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Taking you to your result...

Wessel and Barbara, a couple Jan-Willem coached
A couple I coached

Wessel and Barbara love each other.

Neither of them ever doubted that. But something wasn't working, and they couldn't work out what.

They had tried date nights, counselling and long talks that went nowhere. They still ended feeling lonely, sitting right next to each other.

They simply needed guidance on how to love each other in a way that lands.

After the second week, Barbara messaged me: "I've never felt so seen by him."

Wessel's message came a couple hours later: "I feel more appreciated by her now than I've ever had from anyone."

Jan-Willem van der Heiden
yes, that's me
One question

Ask yourself: what happens if I don't address my relationship problems for another year?

I'll invite you to feel your nervous system rewiring so you feel safe and loved again, and to look at every situation from a completely different angle. It radically changes how you see each other, and the quality of the time you spend together.

Jan-Willem

The short version of me
8+years coaching
1,139people coached, and counting
5retreats run
$200k+on my own therapy and coaching
The path

Four steps, in order

1

Do the quiz

Ten questions, two minutes, free. Answer for how it actually is on a normal Tuesday, and you'll get a score out of thirty.

2

Get awareness

Your result shows you exactly what's been happening between you two and why neither of you could see it from inside. Most couples say this part alone explains years.

3

Get practical support instantly

Real tools on your result page you can use tonight, and a clear next step matched to where you are. You start seeing results the same day.

4

Enjoy the results

The looks across the kitchen, the laughing, the wanting each other. Couples tell me it comes back faster than they thought possible once they work the right way.