Are you a giver?

Are you a giver?

Most women I meet proudly say yes.

They give their time, their love, their attention, their energy. They remember birthdays, they send thoughtful messages, they hold space for everyone’s emotions. It’s one of the most beautiful things about the feminine, it gives. It nourishes. It overflows.

But here’s where it gets tricky.

Attraction is based on polarity. If you’re a giver, and you don’t know how to receive, you’ll attract takers.

Every single time.

Because the energy of giving needs something to flow toward, and if your boundaries are soft, the men who show up will be the ones who take as much as they can. Not because they’re all bad men, but because on some level, that’s the dynamic your energy invites.

I’ve watched so many women fall into this trap.

They say things like, “I just want a man who gives like I do.” But when one finally shows up, present, kind, attentive, it feels off. The attraction fades. Why?

Because your body is wired for imbalance. It’s used to over-giving and earning love, not relaxing and receiving it.

So the question isn’t, are you a giver?

The real question is, can you receive?

Can you let a man give to you without feeling guilty, without needing to match him, without turning it into a transaction? Can you let him see you, support you, and care for you without needing to prove that you deserve it?

Polarity isn’t about opposites. It’s about flow.

When you give without receiving, you create a one-way current. But when you learn to open, to soften, to receive with grace, that current becomes alive again. A man feels it instantly. He doesn’t feel like he’s taking, he feels like he’s contributing.

So if you’ve been attracting takers, it’s not a curse. It’s a mirror.

It’s life showing you where you still struggle to receive.

When you finally do, oh boy, the takers disappear.

And the givers, the ones who give from fullness, like you, start to find their way to you.