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Anyone can say "I love you."

But can you say "I was thinking about our argument last night and I'm really sorry I raised my voice at you."

Anyone can say "I love you.": Jan-Willem van der Heiden, relationship coach

Anyone can say "I love you."

But can you say "You bring up a good point. I hadn't thought of it that way but I see where you're coming from. Thank you."

Anyone can say "I love you."

But can you say "I've been distant lately. It's not you. I'm just carrying something I haven't figured out how to say yet."

Anyone can say "I love you."

But can you say "I know I shut down back there. Give me ten minutes and I'll come back to this conversation properly."

Anyone can say "I love you."

But can you say "You've been carrying a lot this week. I see it. What do you need from me right now."

Jan-Willem van der Heiden
Jan-Willem van der Heiden

Relationship coach. 8 years and 1,000+ men, then couples. I live in Ubud with my wife and our daughter. More about me or take the relationship quiz.

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