When my wife and I were looking for a place to live, I found a villa that ticked every box on my list
The location was perfect, the price was right, the owner was great, and the layout worked for us and our daughter. I was so excited I was ready to sign and move in immediately.
My wife walked through it and said, “Something doesn’t feel right.” She couldn’t explain it. There was no clear reason, no list of problems. Just a feeling.
That’s it. And so she said ‘no’.
My first instinct was to argue. I had the spreadsheet, the logic and the facts. What did she have? A feeling. Make it make sense.
But I’ve learned to trust her intuition. So we walked away.
At breakfast I wasn’t processing what just happened, mostly feeling frustrated and confused. And than she hit me with line:
“I think I know what it is. You were looking through the lens of a man in a relationship, instead of family. What you found is a dream home for any childless couple and I love the effort you put in to finding that place. And it’s no longer what we need.”
We found another villa 2 days later. My wife walked in and said, “This is our home.”
And she was right. It’s the best place we’ve ever lived and it all makes sense now months after living here. There are numerous gifts we never understood before we moved in.
Many men are taught to treat a woman’s intuition as irrational. Something to talk her out of with logic. But her intuition picks up on things we miss. It’s information, and when you treat it that way, it often turns out to be the most useful information.
Your logic and her intuition aren’t competing. Together they make better decisions than either does alone.
