Most women I work with aren't actually looking for a man who's "done the work."
They're looking for a man who's still doing it. Who knows his edges. Who doesn't pretend he's beyond the mess.
The healthy ones aren't the ones who never get reactive. They're the ones who notice it, own it, and come back without making you responsible for their repair.
My wife didn't choose me because I had it all figured out. She chose me because I was honest about what I didn't. And I kept showing up anyway.
A committed man arrives consistent..
You'll know him by what he does when things get hard. Not by what he says when it's easy.
The men worth keeping don't avoid conflict. They don't collapse in it either. They stay in the room.
If you're waiting for someone without wounds, you'll wait forever.
Look instead for someone who knows where his are and doesn't expect you to heal them.
