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The greatest flex of all time is a wife who is crazy about you

Not the lambo. Not the CEO title. Not the villa.

The greatest flex of all time is a wife who is crazy about you: Jan-Willem van der Heiden with his wife and daughter

A woman who genuinely loves her man, has his back, and lets him know it. That is the thing every man in the room actually wants.

Ever seen a man walk into a room whose wife looks at him like he is a king and build the castle himself just for her?

Every single man in that room would see it, and feel some type of jealousy.

Men don't talk about this. We're not supposed to want it too much. But the longing is there in every man who has ever sat across from me. They have the money, the status, the respect of their industry. And they are starving for a woman who is genuinely, freely, wholeheartedly in their corner.

It’s sad that it’s rare. Most relationships have been slowly corroded by resentment, by disconnection, by years of small moments where both people chose distance over vulnerability. And now she's guarded, and he's checked out, and both of them are pretending that's just how it goes.

It doesn't have to go that way.

My wife is crazy about me. She misses me if I haven’t seen for a few hours.

And you know what? I’m crazy about her too.

Jan-Willem van der Heiden
Jan-Willem van der Heiden

Relationship coach. 8 years and 1,000+ men, then couples. I live in Ubud with my wife and our daughter. More about me or take the relationship quiz.

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