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I've had back problems my whole life

Computer work, video games, boxing almost every day. Eventually I was diagnosed with double-curve scoliosis. An S-shaped spine that gave me constant ache, anxiety, and tension I couldn't shake.

I've had back problems my whole life: Finding the right relationship coach. Jan-Willem van der Heiden in an ice bath, with relationship coach Jan-Willem van der Heiden

Over 20 years I saw dozens of specialists all over the world. Physiotherapists, chiropractors, osteopaths, bodyworkers, stretch specialists. I paid tens of thousands of dollars. I got management. I got awareness of the problem. I got exercises that helped.

Then about a year ago I was sitting in a café in Australia and noticed a physiotherapist next door. I walked in. Same question I'd asked dozens of times before: can you help with my back?

I saw the price. $220 a session. Fine. I was used to that.

I showed him where it hurt, what didn't work, how it felt. And I'll never forget what he said.

"Sure. We can fix that."

What do you mean, fix that?

"Yeah, we might need 1, maybe 2 sessions."

He fixed my back. In 60 minutes. 20 years of pain, dozens of specialists, tens of thousands of dollars. Gone in a single session. Gone.

The same happens in my coaching. Clients come in expecting another 6-month project. More awareness of their patterns, more tools to cope. And 1 or 2 sessions later they feel more free, more energised, more at peace, and happier than they've felt in years.

Because they finally found someone who could actually fix the problem.

Jan-Willem van der Heiden
Jan-Willem van der Heiden

Relationship coach. 8 years and 1,000+ men, then couples. I live with my wife and our daughter. More about me or take the relationship quiz.

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