A lot of “conscious men” are just emotionally intelligent enough to justify their emotional unavailability

A lot of “conscious men” are just emotionally intelligent enough to justify their emotional unavailability.

They breadcrumb. They mirror your dreams and fears back to you in poetic language, but they never actually build anything with you.

They’re meditating, self-regulating, journaling about how much they “feel,” while keeping one foot out the door.

And women are exhausted by this. You’re told to be soft, open, trusting. You’re told that men need space, time, patience. So you stretch yourself. You self-soothe. You hold your breath through the grey zone, waiting for him to finally choose you.

And the kicker?

He believes he’s showing up. Because he’s doing better than the man who screamed, cheated, or ghosted. But he’s still not with you.

So here’s what I want every woman to hear:

If his actions leave you anxious, unclear, or constantly self-checking:

That’s a man who wants connection without commitment. Closeness without cost. Access without accountability.

And I know this because I used to be him.

Healing above all else, made me honest. With myself. That what I thought was a ‘good man’, and all the validation I got for it, was a lie.

And now I refuse to live in a lie- because no matter how much work I’ll do, any lie will always lead to hurt.

You need to be met.

Here is how you can tell the difference:

Real presence has weight. It moves things forward. And if nothing’s moving, then it’s not presence.

It’s performance.