There are men men who poured it on thick in the first weeks of dating.

There are men men who poured it on thick in the first weeks of dating.

Flowers, constant texts, big declarations of love, planning the future before you even finished your first bottle of wine together.

On the surface it looks romantic, intoxicating even. But underneath, it’s fear.

Lovebombing usually comes from a deep insecurity, the belief that “who I am isn’t enough.”

So instead of letting you discover them slowly, they try to overwhelm you with gestures. They rush to secure your affection before you can see the parts of themselves they’re afraid you’ll reject.

It’s panic wrapped in charm.

The tragedy is, most of these men don’t even know they’re doing it.

They genuinely want to be loved, but they don’t trust that steady, ordinary presence will ever be enough. So they perform. They give too much too soon, not because they’re overflowing with love, that’s what they’ll tell you, but because they’re starving for approval.

And the moment you don’t mirror it back, their insecurity surfaces again, pulling away, withdrawing, sometimes even blaming you for “changing.”

Healthy love doesn’t need to flood you in week one. It shows up gradually. It lets you breathe. It grows in depth, not in volume.

A man who knows his worth doesn’t have to prove it with a hundred texts or grand promises, he proves it by being consistent, by being real, and by letting the bond unfold at its own pace.

So if you’re swept off your feet too fast, pause.

Ask yourself: is this love, or is this fear in disguise?

Because one builds something steady. The other burns bright, but it always burns out.