Sometimes women ask me, “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable or toxic men?”

Sometimes women ask me, “Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable or toxic men?”

And the truth is, those men aren’t drawn only to you. They go to every woman. They cast wide nets.

They move from heart to heart, from body to body, looking for someone who will feed the part of them that refuses to grow.

The problem isn’t that you attract them.

The problem is that you let them stay.

Because deep down, you see their ‘potential’. You sense the wounded boy behind the man who pulls away. You hope that if you love him enough, he’ll finally feel safe enough to meet you fully. You stay because your heart is big. Because you believe in healing. Because you think love should fix what’s broken.

But love can’t heal someone who doesn’t want to heal. Ever. And compassion should never ever whatever mean self-abandonment.

The moment a man shows you who he is, his avoidance, his manipulation, his inconsistency, you have two choices. You can start explaining, analyzing, helping and hoping. Or you can start walking.

When you stop entertaining men who are unavailable, you create space for one who actually is. A man who doesn’t confuse you. Who doesn’t make you prove your worth. Who doesn’t run when things get real.

The lesson isn’t about how to attract better men. It’s about how to stop tolerating what drains you.

Boundaries aren’t walls, they’re doors that only open for what’s good.

And the moment you close that door to chaos, the right man will simply walk in.